FAQ

Glossary

• Vision & Mission
• Event Q&A
• Inclusivity & Safety
• Membership & Participation

What is the long-term goal of Shame LESS Society?

• Our intention is to create a transformative community that prioritizes connection with others, based on values such as authenticity, honesty, and artistic and sexual expression. We aim to host Europe's finest sensual ethically hedonistic gatherings with the goal of deconstructing shame around all sexual topics and personal character growth.
• Our mission is to build a sustainable platform for relating to other humans while taking into account the psychological challenges of modern society. We do this through education, fostering conversations, creating awareness around sexual topics, and holding safer spaces for the community to thrive and explore.

What is your code of ethics?

Our code of ethics includes principles such as beneficence, non-maleficence, autonomy, justice, truth-telling, and promise-keeping.

Check out our community guidelines for more: Community Guidelines →

Event Q&A

In which countries do you host your events?

So far, we've organized getaways, gatherings, and soirées in Germany and Portugal. We plan to expand to the Netherlands and Czech Republic in the years to come.

What types of events do you host?

• Sensual Soirée: Held in Lisbon and soon in Berlin, these highly sophisticated signature events are hosted in mesmerizing venues; typically historical palaces and castles. This immersive event for all senses is the only experience of its kind, designed meticulously by an experienced community of conscious kinksters from all over Europe.
• Hedonistic Getaways: These retreats, held in Portugal and Germany, last from two to four nights and combine relational and sexual education with leisure in luxurious, secluded villas.
• Sensual Saturday: A smaller and lighter version of the Sensual Soirée, typically hosted in mansions and villas as the highlight of a Hedonistic Getaway.
• Social Events: These nonprofit, educational, and casual gatherings hosted in Lisbon and Berlin are designed to build, sustain, and educate our community. Held both offline and online.

How regularly do you host your events?

The Shame LESS Society is a rapidly growing community, but we prioritize event quality over frequency. Members are notified when event dates are released. At this time we do not want to commit to a particular frequency, so as to ensure a consistent quality that we know we can be proud of.

How can I stay in touch and be informed when something is happening?

To stay updated on our events and announcements, you can follow us on these platforms:

• Website: Our events are regularly posted on the Shame LESS Society website.
• Newsletter: Monthly updates and announcements via email.
• Telegram Channel: For announcements, join our public Telegram channel here.
• Instagram: Follow us for updates and behind the scenes info on Instagram @shame.less.society.
• Members-Only Chat: Exclusive announcements and a connection platform for our members. Join here.

What is the duration of the events?

We approach our events holistically, aiming to engage all the senses and allow plenty of time for exploration and integration. Aftercare is provided both online and offline about a week after the event, tailored to the context. Additionally, social events are held in Lisbon and Berlin prior to major events, to help foster a sense of connection and familiarity.

We always offer complimentary water, often tea, and snacks, and there are also options to purchase additional food and drinks from our gastronomic partners on-site.

Are there age restrictions for your events?

All participants must be of legal age of the country where the event is being hosted.

Can I bring a partner or guest to your events, or are they for members only?

No, all attendees must be registered members to ensure a safe space and group accountability.

If I get a room for 2 or 3 at an event do I need to invite 1 or 2 others to the event or does this merely leave my afterparty exploration open to company?

You can book the room as an individual and invite other members of the society within the booked capacity.

What is the dress code at your events?

Our dress code encourages playful, colorful, kinky, and roleplay attire. Feel free to express your fantasy while being comfortable. Everyday standard attire is not allowed. It is not an everyday sort of space, and your outfit is one of many demonstrations of this.

Check out our dress code inspiration for more: Dresscode →

Is a Shame LESS Society event similar to a swinger club?

No, we strongly believe in differentiating ourselves from swinger clubs. We are a community that views physical intimacy as one of many ways of expressing a connection between consenting adults. Our playful events revolve around connecting like-minded, ethically hedonistic individuals, and these connections can take various forms.

Are your events "orgies"?

No, our events are not orgies. However, we don't restrict consensual group activities.

Will full nudity be present?

Full nudity may be present in certain areas of our event, depending on the nature of the activities. Attendees who prefer to remain clothed (within the dress code) can comfortably participate without any pressure. We prioritize creating a respectful and consensual environment for all participants.

Why are no phones allowed at your events?

In order to let our wild sides free and truly embrace our ShameLESSness and respect others' boundaries and the vulnerability of the space, we don't allow phones.

Will there be professional photographers? What if I do not want to be photographed?

By attending our events, you give consent for photographs and videos to be taken by our official photographers and videographers. Rest assured, our team is thoroughly briefed to avoid capturing any compromising content. However, if you prefer not to be photographed or filmed, you can withdraw your consent upon arrival. We will provide you with a recognizable wristband, which signals to our photographers and videographers not to capture any identifiable footage of you. Your privacy and comfort are important to us, and we aim to respect your preferences throughout the event.

Is this event for me if I am in a monogamous relationship and want to discover with ONLY my partner?

Absolutely. You are free to interact as only a couple and retain your own boundaries. We do encourage all participants to enjoy the inclusiveness of the space and expand your connection horizons of any nature. If you intend to attend as a couple, please make sure to read our couples guide: Experiencing a Sex-Positive Event together: A Guide for Couples →

Do you take into account male-female body ratio?

While achieving a perfect 50-50 representation of male and female attendees is not our ultimate goal, our past events have generally shown a balanced mix. On average, the attendance is roughly equal between female-presenting and male-presenting individuals, with slight variations depending on the event's topic.

Do I have to attend the play-shops? Can I arrive later than the time stated in my ticket?

The "Sex+ Spaces for Beginners” play-shop is mandatory for all first-time participants. For other work- and play-shops, attendance is optional and you can choose to attend only those that interest you. However, we recommend arriving at the beginning; not only to fully enjoy the educational and artistic program, but also for the natural build-up of the atmosphere that we aspire to create.

Please note that doors close strictly at the time visible in your ticket, and no entry will be allowed after that time. This is important to create a safe container for the kind of experience we seek to provide. You may leave an event at any time — however, it won’t be possible to rejoin after the doors close.

Are there private spaces in the event venues or is it all out in the open?

At most of our events, we work to offer platforms for various sensations and situations — for those who want to be seen and in the open, and those who prefer a more cozy setting. To ensure full privacy throughout the event, we recommend booking private rooms within the venue. This option is available at most of our events.

Inclusivity & Safety

General rules at all Shame LESS Society events:

How do you create a safe space at your events?

Our Safely Measures:

• Stringent preselection: Individual interviews and a carefully-curated guest list.
• Group accountability: Mandatory registration and verification processes.
• Consent culture: Conceptual reinforcement to foster a culture of respect and consent.
• Awareness team: Comprised of mental health professionals and trained volunteers.
• Kink-informed security: Experienced team for a secure and inclusive atmosphere.
• Ethics committee: Oversight ensuring adherence to ethical standards.
• Palácio guides: Assistance for seamless orientation throughout the event.
• Hygienic standards: Ongoing and seamless cleaning services and skin-friendly self-service disinfection stations.
• STI testing: Free antigenic testing station and complimentary contraceptive and protection items.

Safety around consumption - is this a sober space?

While our events are not strictly sober spaces, we encourage responsible consumption. To help maintain a safe and respectful environment, we provide free water stations and tea throughout the event to keep everyone hydrated. We ask attendees to be mindful of their alcohol intake to ensure a positive experience for all participants. Please note that bringing outside drinks is not allowed, as we aim to monitor and manage alcohol consumption responsibly within the venue. We reserve the right to ask guests to leave the event if they appear too intoxicated.

Is this a safe space for non-heteronormative individuals?

Yes, our events are designed to be a safe and inclusive space for exploring all sexual identities and preferences. We emphasize a consent-informed environment where clear boundaries and respectful communication are expected from all participants. Discrimination of any kind, whether based on kink, identity, or partner preferences, is not tolerated. Our kink-informed security and awareness teams are here to support and protect all attendees, ensuring a respectful and secure atmosphere.

Am I required to provide an STI test before participating in events?

Sexual acts are not the primary focus of our events and there's no mandatory STI test required. We aim to provide free antigenic STI testing stations at most of our events.

However, we strongly encourage regular testing (every three months) and open conversations with other participants before any physical interaction.

Please read here our guides on how to get tested in Berlin and Lisbon:

• Sexual Health in Berlin
• STI Prevention Lisbon

How do you handle concerns related to privacy and discretion for your members?

We prioritize member privacy and discretion, while acknowledging the open nature of our community. We aim to deconstruct societal shame on topics that are considered taboo. If you can’t be at all associated with our events, reconsider you application.

What if I feel uncomfortable during the event?

It's absolutely normal to feel a little bit overwhelmed initially, especially in a new and diverse environment. Creating a safe and supportive environment is our top priority. We have an awareness team (mostly composed of mental health professionals and seasoned volunteers) available throughout the event to offer support if you're struggling or in need of assistance. Awareness Team members are clearly identifiable through pink and turquoise chokers with an *“A“* on them so that you can reach out to them easily if needed. Additionally, we offer a mandatory "Beginners Play-Shop" at the beginning of every event, designed to help first-time attendees acclimate and feel more comfortable throughout the event.

What happens if someone violates your community guidelines during an event?

Violations may result in the removal of the member from the event and possible revocation of their member status and legal pursuit, if required.

I am older and don’t consider myself very fit. Would I look out of place in one of your event?

We foster diversity and inclusion, and the outcome of our onboarding process is not directly affected by age or looks. Our member base showcases body and age positivity. However, apart from the shared values, we do take into account how you present yourself and how well you can communicate and carry yourself to ensure everybody's comfort. Our target participant is between 27 and 37 years old, educated, energetically and physically attractive, charismatic, community-oriented, and kind.

Membership & Participation

How do I apply for membership or volunteer at Shame LESS Society?

Head over to our homepage and click on the "Apply Now" button. Membership is free. The questionnaire is designed to ensure that all members are aligned with our values and guidelines. The application process takes about 5 to 15 minutes, depending on how much you are willing to share.

What is the difference between a member and a volunteer?

Members have full access to events and services, including exclusive content like blogs and newsletters. Volunteers are also members who contribute to our mission by performing various roles in preparation and during events. In exchange for their energy, time, and expertise, volunteers can attend events for a reduced fee and enjoy volunteer-exclusive benefits and events. Being a volunteer is the most immersive way to experience our community.

How do you select members and volunteers?

To ensure a safer space for all, we've developed a personalized verification process. After reading our member guidelines and applying, we review detailed applications to understand applicants' interests and values. Being referred by another member is helpful. We also suggest a Zoom call with one of our interviewers to get to know each other better. Once we feel there's a good match, you'll receive confirmation of your free membership, or be introduced to team leads if you're joining as a volunteer.

What do you do with my data? How secure is it?

Privacy is important to us. We process your data in accordance with the EU General Data Protection Regulation (GDPR) and the Federal Data Protection Act (BDSG). Detailed information can be found in our privacy policy →.